Gay Marriage

by kburton

27 May

Gay Marriage
Kelly Burton
Park University


The topic is Gay Marriage is a heated topic often debated in America.  Opponents and proponents of this topic have the same concerns, just a different view of each subject.  This paper covers the some of the topics: Is marriage a holy or legal union? Will the sanctity of marriage be destroyed or elevated with the addition of same sex marriage? Are same couples more or less monogamous than a biologically normal couple.  Presented here are both sides of the argument with no one side weighted more than the other.Gay Marriage 

Gay Marriage, a topic that is surely to spark controversy in any social circle.  Proponents and opponents of Gay marriage have such strong views on this subject, often turning to fierce debate. How can one’s sexual preference create such a divided spectrum of people. There are many argument topics salient to Gay Marriage, this paper will cover three of them: (1) Is marriage a church based holy sacrament or a legal union?  (2) Is the sanctity of marriage is at risk allowing Gay Marriage. (3) Marriage is based on monogamy, Gay people are not monogamous.

Is marriage a church based holy sacrament or a legal union?

Opponents of Gay marriage support the fact that marriage is a Holy union under God, based on the union of a man and women.  While proponents of Gay Marriage support that marriage is a legal union that is recognized by our Government.  Both sides are technically correct in their assertions.  Marriages in most states can be conducted by both clergy and certain state employees. Texas has four categories of people that can ratify marriages, three from the church and one from the state (Family Code, Title 1, The Marriage Relationship,1997). Marriage is based in a religious tradition, it is this religious tradition that prohibits the church from allowing same sex marriages. In the United States we have freedom of religion, we are allowed to choose any religion we prefer, or no religion at all.  It is our freedom of religion that allows marriages to be performed outside of the church.  Both types of marriages are legal unions in the the eyes of the state, allowing the married couple to receive over 1100 government benefits (Hurst, 2010, p.136). Most states adopt the church’s view on Gay marriage, denying same sex couples privileges that are afforded to married couples.  A compromise in this situation would be for the state to allow same sex marriages and the church to continue religious tradition and only sanction marriages between a man and a women.

The sanctity of marriage is at risk allowing Gay Marriage

Allowing a compromise could work if given a try, however opponents of Gay marriage argue that the sanctity of marriage is at risk. Over 50% percent of all marriages in the United States end in divorce (CDC, 2008). The sanctity of marriage is under attack because people get married without thinking.  Marriage is not seen as a life long commitment, as we have places like Las Vegas where people can get married on a whim.  Age limits are set entirely too low, as people are allowed to get married as early as 18 in most states. Will the addition of same sex couples to the marriage statistics help of ruin or help lower the divorce rate in america?  In a 2007 study, it was found that Gay couples over a ten year relationship have a higher quality of relationship than other non gay couples (Santrock, 2009, p.343).  While some Gay couples enjoy a higher quality of relationship with their partners, statistics show “About half of committed gay male couples do have an open relationship that allows the possibility of sex (but not affectionate love) outside the relationship.  Lesbian couples usually do not have the open relationship”  (Santrock, 2009, p.343).

Marriage is based on monogamy, Gay people are not monogamous?

Regardless if you are married by the state or in a church, marriage is supposed to be based on a life long monogamous relationship.  Opponents of Gay Marriage state that Gay people are not able to maintain a monogamous relationship.  Proponents point out that people in general are not monogamous. The answer is not clear, in general males are not designed to be monogamous by nature. The problem here is not in the sexual preference of a person, rather their predetermined biological need to try and replicate their genes as much as possible.  While it is not a biological possibility for a gay couple to bear offspring, the physical acts and urges are still the same. Both sides of the argument need to address if monogamy is really a realistic expectation from any married couple.

Where a person falls on the topic of Gay Marriage is related to where their moral and religious beliefs stand. Traditional views on marriage along with more liberal views are prevalent in today’s society. On the news we always see the extreme views, neither side willing to bend on their beliefs, or see the other side of the argument. Ideologies and traditions are not easily changed, it takes time.  However not all ideologies are not meant to evolve, they are locked in stone.  Is the idea of marriage on of these, or is it one that can evolve with our ever-changing world?


CDC. (2008). Center for disease control and prevention. Retrieved from

Family Code, Title 1, The Marriage Relationship, Subchapter A, Application for Marriage License. Texas Stat. Ann. Section 2.202 (1997)

Hurst, Charles. (2010). Social inequality. Allyn & Bacon.

Santrock, John. (2009). Adolescence. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages.

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